Sea Fishes

Well...

Did Aarons parents get married late in life or do they want their child to miss out on the things that are most important in life--not a career or money, but relationships with other people; namely love. I mean life is about joy, and not temporary joy a person can get from drugs and alchohol, but the joy that comes from a life full of people who love and care about you. I can see how his parents want him to be well-established before he jumps into the financial responsibility that a relationship and/or marriage would bring, but everything I have been taught being raised is that relationships and love are once in a lifetime thing. If you miss them, they aren't coming back. Plus it is those financial hard times that bring a couple closer to together and helps to withstand harder times that will come. College takes a long time and a relationship does not nessacarily detract from the amount of time or effort a person can put into getting good grades, at least no more then hanging out with friends, which I believe he is allowed to do.

I believe that parents should be listened to and you should take their counsel seriously, but there comes a time in peoples lives when they need to make decisions for themselves. Parents need to start to let go. They should never stop giving advice, but they should allow their children to look at both sides of the matter and make their own decisions taking their parents advice into consideration. Parents should not decide how a child should live their life and inforce it by making the kid feel guilty if they don't listen to them.

It is great Aaron is listening to his parents and I respect him for that too, but I guess everything in my raising is screaming that I don't agree at all with his parents. So sorry for exploding. I like Aaron and I agree with the choices he is making, i don't agree with his parents and i think they are being controlling and irrational.

Hahaha most of the Mormon women say they will wait, but they almost never make it. For the most part we all get married young. there are a few who don't...Maybe you should continue to be Aarons really good friend, but if you get asked on dates (not boyfriend girlfriend) go on the dates. continue to be social and really see what is out there with guys you know? Plus even if you do wait, it is a long time and people change, so plan for the unexpected. I don't mean to sound like I don't care or like I am trying to convince you not to wait. In fact I am argueing on the contrary. I think it is great if you wait for his parents approval. I think you and Aaron are great and I can see how happy you are with him and that makes me happy. I love it when you are happy. I just want you to be prepared for whatever desicion you make.

honestly, I don't think Aaron will ever be another fish in the sea because he has influenced you he has helped you become who you are. He may not end up being the right fish for you, but he will never be just another fish. If you wait, I will support you. I think that while you are waiting don't say no to getting to know other guys on dates not dating and when Aarons parents are willing to over look their ambitions for their son and you are able to date him, I would like you to date him and see for real if he is the one that God put on this earth to complete you. I know that sounds foolish, but I believe that there is one person who you are meant to be with. I just feel like there has to be one person out there who completes you like no other person can and if Aaron turns out to be this person for you, what are a few years when compared to eternity?

I love you and I will pray for you. Whatever you decide will be the right choice. I believe in you.

P.S. have fun at the wedding!! I love weddings :D