Well...
Did Aarons parents get married late in life or do they want their child to miss out on the things that are most important in life--not a career or money, but relationships with other people; namely love. I mean life is about joy, and not temporary joy a person can get from drugs and alchohol, but the joy that comes from a life full of people who love and care about you. I can see how his parents want him to be well-established before he jumps into the financial responsibility that a relationship and/or marriage would bring, but everything I have been taught being raised is that relationships and love are once in a lifetime thing. If you miss them, they aren't coming back. Plus it is those financial hard times that bring a couple closer to together and helps to withstand harder times that will come. College takes a long time and a relationship does not nessacarily detract from the amount of time or effort a person can put into getting good grades, at least no more then hanging out with friends, which I believe he is allowed to do.
I believe that parents should be listened to and you should take their counsel seriously, but there comes a time in peoples lives when they need to make decisions for themselves. Parents need to start to let go. They should never stop giving advice, but they should allow their children to look at both sides of the matter and make their own decisions taking their parents advice into consideration. Parents should not decide how a child should live their life and inforce it by making the kid feel guilty if they don't listen to them.
It is great Aaron is listening to his parents and I respect him for that too, but I guess everything in my raising is screaming that I don't agree at all with his parents. So sorry for exploding. I like Aaron and I agree with the choices he is making, i don't agree with his parents and i think they are being controlling and irrational.
Hahaha most of the Mormon women say they will wait, but they almost never make it. For the most part we all get married young. there are a few who don't...Maybe you should continue to be Aarons really good friend, but if you get asked on dates (not boyfriend girlfriend) go on the dates. continue to be social and really see what is out there with guys you know? Plus even if you do wait, it is a long time and people change, so plan for the unexpected. I don't mean to sound like I don't care or like I am trying to convince you not to wait. In fact I am argueing on the contrary. I think it is great if you wait for his parents approval. I think you and Aaron are great and I can see how happy you are with him and that makes me happy. I love it when you are happy. I just want you to be prepared for whatever desicion you make.
honestly, I don't think Aaron will ever be another fish in the sea because he has influenced you he has helped you become who you are. He may not end up being the right fish for you, but he will never be just another fish. If you wait, I will support you. I think that while you are waiting don't say no to getting to know other guys on dates not dating and when Aarons parents are willing to over look their ambitions for their son and you are able to date him, I would like you to date him and see for real if he is the one that God put on this earth to complete you. I know that sounds foolish, but I believe that there is one person who you are meant to be with. I just feel like there has to be one person out there who completes you like no other person can and if Aaron turns out to be this person for you, what are a few years when compared to eternity?
I love you and I will pray for you. Whatever you decide will be the right choice. I believe in you.
P.S. have fun at the wedding!! I love weddings :D
Friday, June 26, 2009
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Scary.
So...
Aaron's parents don't really want him to date in college. He's stuck in between what he wants and thinks is right, and what they want from him. They think that he should "focus on his career". I respect him so much for doing what they want, but it is still hard on me. Like I said before, he IS someone that I would want to spend the rest of my life with. Coty says that there are plenty of other fish in the sea, but the problem is, I don't want any of the other fish. So... I may learn what it feels like to be a mormon woman. There is the chance that I will have to wait two or three years to date Aaron. At any rate, it will be from two months to three years. I have to make the decision about whether I really do want to spend the rest of my life with him or not. If I wait for that long, then I will probably end up marrying him. If I don't, and I date others, he may end up being, as Coty says, another fish in the sea. In all honesty though... I feel like I want to wait. Pray, please??
Oh, and I'm in Dallas for Laura's wedding. I'm excited. :D
Aaron's parents don't really want him to date in college. He's stuck in between what he wants and thinks is right, and what they want from him. They think that he should "focus on his career". I respect him so much for doing what they want, but it is still hard on me. Like I said before, he IS someone that I would want to spend the rest of my life with. Coty says that there are plenty of other fish in the sea, but the problem is, I don't want any of the other fish. So... I may learn what it feels like to be a mormon woman. There is the chance that I will have to wait two or three years to date Aaron. At any rate, it will be from two months to three years. I have to make the decision about whether I really do want to spend the rest of my life with him or not. If I wait for that long, then I will probably end up marrying him. If I don't, and I date others, he may end up being, as Coty says, another fish in the sea. In all honesty though... I feel like I want to wait. Pray, please??
Oh, and I'm in Dallas for Laura's wedding. I'm excited. :D
Friday, June 19, 2009
Me Commenting the Life of You
No. It is not okay. I really tried to get a hold of you! You are like one of my best friends ever!!! I am supposed to be there even when I am not. Plus I miss you. Hahaha, well I hope you enjoy the crazy! I leave for Jordan on Monday and I won't be back until that Friday I think. It will be way fun! You are welcome to stalk me any time.
Wow. That sounds way complicated. Why would he say that you too were official and then not when you tell people. I mean when you are official aren't you allowed to tell people? That is way way way confusing. How did he tell you? What made him change his mind?
His parents kind of expect him to be his brother? that doesn't seem right. I mean each kid is different aren't they? There is nothing wrong with dating as long as it doesn't interfere. You know like as long as it doesn't cuase your grades to drop and make it so you have no other friends. It is good though that you are both listening to your parents. They have your best interests at heart, but I don't think he is a rebound boy for you either. I guess as long as he does not start dating another girl. It will be okay Tracy, just try not to let it get to you. As long as you know you both like each other, a few more months won't hurt. More time to get to know each other with out the drama of a relationship. I find sometimes that once people get into a relationship they expect more of each other and tend to find a lot more faults and get annoyed at each other more quickly. Then again, I guess that is the reason to date, to see if you two can get along in an actual relationship...wow that made no sense. We will just have to pray for the best. I agree with you on one point though, if his parents don't want him to date you becuase of his academics, it certainly won't be better when you two go back to school. Speaking of going back to school...when do you go back? I come home August 13th, just in time for you to tell me what is happening in person!! :D
I hope everything turns out well! and don't get swine flu okay?
Wow. That sounds way complicated. Why would he say that you too were official and then not when you tell people. I mean when you are official aren't you allowed to tell people? That is way way way confusing. How did he tell you? What made him change his mind?
His parents kind of expect him to be his brother? that doesn't seem right. I mean each kid is different aren't they? There is nothing wrong with dating as long as it doesn't interfere. You know like as long as it doesn't cuase your grades to drop and make it so you have no other friends. It is good though that you are both listening to your parents. They have your best interests at heart, but I don't think he is a rebound boy for you either. I guess as long as he does not start dating another girl. It will be okay Tracy, just try not to let it get to you. As long as you know you both like each other, a few more months won't hurt. More time to get to know each other with out the drama of a relationship. I find sometimes that once people get into a relationship they expect more of each other and tend to find a lot more faults and get annoyed at each other more quickly. Then again, I guess that is the reason to date, to see if you two can get along in an actual relationship...wow that made no sense. We will just have to pray for the best. I agree with you on one point though, if his parents don't want him to date you becuase of his academics, it certainly won't be better when you two go back to school. Speaking of going back to school...when do you go back? I come home August 13th, just in time for you to tell me what is happening in person!! :D
I hope everything turns out well! and don't get swine flu okay?
Thursday, June 18, 2009
The Life of Me
Yay!! It's okay that you didn't. I don't think you have the right email :( Sorry. That's my fault. I'll send it to you. Your adventures sound like fun! I have bookmarked your blog now so I can officially be a stalker.
GRRRRARRRR... My brain hurts. So... yeah... I told you that Aaron and I decided to become official. Well... no. Kinda. He thinks we should wait. A lot because of what his and my parents have said. Which... is commendable. But... it is annoying. We were going to start officially dating a few weeks ago. And then somehow we came to the decision that we should not until the end of the summer. Along with that, we decided that we should limit our contact to each other to see what happens when we don't see and talk to each other. My mom wants me to be sure that Aaron is not a rebound guy. So we did that. And we lasted about a week. We were talking, and the subject of other girls/guys, and we decided that neither of us really wanted to date anyone else. We discussed what our relationship status was, and he said that he thought we should officially date. So we became official, and I decided that it would be okay to tell people that we were dating. That is what you generally do when you have a boyfriend, right? ...apparently not. We hung out yesterday, and then today he called me today and said that he thought we should wait. Hanging out consisted of walking around the mall, walking around clement part, and laying on the grass looking at clouds. So anyhow... he called me and told me that he thought that we should still wait until the end of the summer. Most of his reasoning is because his parents don't want him dating right now. They want him to "focus on his career". But in my head, that makes it sound like they just want him to be like Caleb, his brother. Caleb was one of those perfect sibling types. He just graduated with a 4.0 from the business school at UNC. He was involved in business clubs, he graduated with honors... the works. He sometimes even came to swing club if he isn't studying. Aaron is still a smart kid, but he isn't as entirely absorbed into school as Caleb was. Aaron is still getting good grades, but instead of straight A's, he's gotten a few that are less than that. I don't know what his grades are exactly, but they aren't bad. His parents want him to focus on his career, and not date. He says that by the end of the summer, they will be okay.
I don't think I believe him. If they want him to not date so that he can focus on school, it won't get any better when school starts. If anything, it will get worse.
My mother wants me to not start dating Aaron until the end of the summer because she wants me to be sure he isn't a rebound. I don't think that he is, a lot because it has been since February since we started "courting" and getting to know each other better, and I find myself liking him more all the time. And I like him as a person, and not just as someone who could fill my desire for a relationship.
So like I said... I respect his desire to adhere to his and my parent's wishes, but... the on and off thing doesn't work for me. It's kind of emotionally taxing. I am willing to wait until the end of the summer... I'm actually willing to wait for quite a long time for Aaron. But I need solidity. The fluctuation isn't fun.
So... in the end, we decided to meet on August 12ish and talk. I'm kind of... bla at the moment. I'm really not sure what I'm feeling. But... yeah.... that's what is going on.
GRRRRARRRR... My brain hurts. So... yeah... I told you that Aaron and I decided to become official. Well... no. Kinda. He thinks we should wait. A lot because of what his and my parents have said. Which... is commendable. But... it is annoying. We were going to start officially dating a few weeks ago. And then somehow we came to the decision that we should not until the end of the summer. Along with that, we decided that we should limit our contact to each other to see what happens when we don't see and talk to each other. My mom wants me to be sure that Aaron is not a rebound guy. So we did that. And we lasted about a week. We were talking, and the subject of other girls/guys, and we decided that neither of us really wanted to date anyone else. We discussed what our relationship status was, and he said that he thought we should officially date. So we became official, and I decided that it would be okay to tell people that we were dating. That is what you generally do when you have a boyfriend, right? ...apparently not. We hung out yesterday, and then today he called me today and said that he thought we should wait. Hanging out consisted of walking around the mall, walking around clement part, and laying on the grass looking at clouds. So anyhow... he called me and told me that he thought that we should still wait until the end of the summer. Most of his reasoning is because his parents don't want him dating right now. They want him to "focus on his career". But in my head, that makes it sound like they just want him to be like Caleb, his brother. Caleb was one of those perfect sibling types. He just graduated with a 4.0 from the business school at UNC. He was involved in business clubs, he graduated with honors... the works. He sometimes even came to swing club if he isn't studying. Aaron is still a smart kid, but he isn't as entirely absorbed into school as Caleb was. Aaron is still getting good grades, but instead of straight A's, he's gotten a few that are less than that. I don't know what his grades are exactly, but they aren't bad. His parents want him to focus on his career, and not date. He says that by the end of the summer, they will be okay.
I don't think I believe him. If they want him to not date so that he can focus on school, it won't get any better when school starts. If anything, it will get worse.
My mother wants me to not start dating Aaron until the end of the summer because she wants me to be sure he isn't a rebound. I don't think that he is, a lot because it has been since February since we started "courting" and getting to know each other better, and I find myself liking him more all the time. And I like him as a person, and not just as someone who could fill my desire for a relationship.
So like I said... I respect his desire to adhere to his and my parent's wishes, but... the on and off thing doesn't work for me. It's kind of emotionally taxing. I am willing to wait until the end of the summer... I'm actually willing to wait for quite a long time for Aaron. But I need solidity. The fluctuation isn't fun.
So... in the end, we decided to meet on August 12ish and talk. I'm kind of... bla at the moment. I'm really not sure what I'm feeling. But... yeah.... that's what is going on.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009
Excitment!
Miss Tracy!!!! That is so exciting! I am so happy for you! He seems like a really great guy. I tried to e-mail you happy brithday on your birthday like 12 times, but i kept getting it back...I was so sad. so Happy very late Birthday!! I saw the pics you put up on facebook! it looks like it was a real blast! how does it feel to be 19 :D oh you are so old now :D
Tracy, that doesn't sound weird (the you feeling like you could spend the rest of your life with him) seriously you are talking to a mormon. we get married freakishly young. 19 is normal in our culture. actually that is when most mormon girls get married. so i don't think you are too young to feel that way. maybe to young to marry, but not too young to feel that way....wow did that make any sense?
I have missed you guys so much! you don't even know! I enjoy looking at your facebook though and kind of see what you have been up to. you guys need to keep me posted on everything you do! I feel like i might lose you guys all the way out here. in fact i feel like i am losing all of my old friends. I don't want to lose you two.
YOur cousin is getting married!!! THat is so wonderful! i can't wait to see the pics.
So i have done a lot of fun things, but to sum it up, I went and jumped off a cliff into a water pool and herded sheep and killed goliath...you know what i will just let you guys read it on my other blog. it is www.jerusalemwoot.blogspot.com
love you guys!! I miss you! I hope everything in your lives is going wonderfully and will continue to!
Tracy, that doesn't sound weird (the you feeling like you could spend the rest of your life with him) seriously you are talking to a mormon. we get married freakishly young. 19 is normal in our culture. actually that is when most mormon girls get married. so i don't think you are too young to feel that way. maybe to young to marry, but not too young to feel that way....wow did that make any sense?
I have missed you guys so much! you don't even know! I enjoy looking at your facebook though and kind of see what you have been up to. you guys need to keep me posted on everything you do! I feel like i might lose you guys all the way out here. in fact i feel like i am losing all of my old friends. I don't want to lose you two.
YOur cousin is getting married!!! THat is so wonderful! i can't wait to see the pics.
So i have done a lot of fun things, but to sum it up, I went and jumped off a cliff into a water pool and herded sheep and killed goliath...you know what i will just let you guys read it on my other blog. it is www.jerusalemwoot.blogspot.com
love you guys!! I miss you! I hope everything in your lives is going wonderfully and will continue to!
Sunday, June 14, 2009
I am so jealous of you.
Oh my gosh, Audge. I am so jealous. But that's funny... I would say you are pre-creepy Brittney too, but... I think she's always been slutty. I think they meant your face. You have a very pretty face! Egypt though! That's so cool!!! How was that?? Can you put the url for your other blog on here so we can go there??
I miss you so much! Steven is going away on his mission soon. He says that he and David and I should hang out. lol... That's going to be funny. Oh well.
GUESS WHAT?! :D
Aaron and I have decided to become official. I'm so excited. I honestly think that he is a guy that I would want to spend the rest of my life with. Which sounds crazy to be saying at this age, but... in all honesty, I think he is absolutely amazing for me.
So this summer I have been nannying. It's pretty cool. Clay and Sara are five and three, respectively. They are pretty cute. They can be difficult, but they aren't too bad.
I got a dress today for my cousin's wedding... it's very pretty. Audge, you'd approve. it has really cool sleeves. haha... I'll have to take pictures and show you.
I love you both much, and I am praying for your safety, Miss Audrey. :)
I miss you so much! Steven is going away on his mission soon. He says that he and David and I should hang out. lol... That's going to be funny. Oh well.
GUESS WHAT?! :D
Aaron and I have decided to become official. I'm so excited. I honestly think that he is a guy that I would want to spend the rest of my life with. Which sounds crazy to be saying at this age, but... in all honesty, I think he is absolutely amazing for me.
So this summer I have been nannying. It's pretty cool. Clay and Sara are five and three, respectively. They are pretty cute. They can be difficult, but they aren't too bad.
I got a dress today for my cousin's wedding... it's very pretty. Audge, you'd approve. it has really cool sleeves. haha... I'll have to take pictures and show you.
I love you both much, and I am praying for your safety, Miss Audrey. :)
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